Ayesha Curry has responded to the debate over her “Red Table “Talk” appearance during which she discussed the challenges of being married to all-star NBA player Stephen Curry.
Unbowed by the criticism she received in particular from men, Curry wrote, “I have never been one to cage my feelings and emotions to any capacity. I am human. It brings me pure joy to speak my mind, be vulnerable at times and to know myself inside and out.
“Seeing as how it’s mental health awareness month I really want to take the time to encourage everyone to speak their truth regardless of perception, fitting into a mold or offending someone, because it’s YOUR truth. And that’s okay! If what I’m not afraid to say out loud about being a 30yr mama of 3 helps another woman like me feel like they’re not the alone and not the only one with an insecurity (because we ALL have them, don’t play) then that makes all of this hoopla worth it.”
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Facebook series “Red Table Talk” traveled to Charlotte, North Carolina where host Jada Pinkett Smith and her daughter, Willow Smith and her mother, Adrienne Banfield-Jones, visited with four members of the Curry family, including Sonya Curry, who’s married to Dell Curry, and Ayesha Curry who’s married to their son, all-star NBA player Stephen Curry.
Guests also included Callie Rivers (daughter of Doc Rivers), who’s newly-engaged to Steph’s younger brother, Seth, along with Sydell, Steph and Seth’s younger sister, who’s engaged to NBA player Damion Lee.
Ayesha’s comments drew the most scrutiny and were viewed with a mix or reactions ranging from sympathetic to the challenges of being married to a professional athlete to irritation with her comments on women who approach her husband.
When asked how she deals with women approaching her husband, Ayesha explained, “Stephen is very nice by nature. And he’s very talkative. He’s just like [his mother], he gets it from his mamma. And everything is always very friendly and sometimes to the point where I’m like, okay I’m a grown woman, so I’ll just insert myself, and be like, ‘Hello, how are you doing?'”
“I’m okay with it now. Obviously you know, the devil is a liar and the ladies will always be lurking, hoping for their moment and waiting, you need to be aware of that, but for me I honestly hate it.”
Ayesha added she’s talked to Stephen about bringing her into conversations. “I don’t like to have to introduce myself, it irks my nerves. So I try and make that known, but there have been a couple of times when I wanted to punch someone in the face,” she said, and added, “He can’t see it coming, but I see it a mile away.”
Her comments on a lack of interest from males also drew fire from men on social media, who didn’t understand why she might want validation from people outside her marriage.
When discussing how their husbands attract women, Ayesha stated, “Something that really bothers me and honestly has given me a sense of a little bit of an insecurity. It’s like, yeah, there are all these women throwing themselves, but me like the past ten years I don’t have any of that. Like I have zero, this sounds weird, male attention. And so then I begin to internalize it and I think, ‘Is there’s something wrong with me?'”
She then added, “‘Cause I don’t want it, but it’d be nice to know someone’s looking.”
On the topic of anxiety, Ayesha admitted she suffers from it enough that she sometimes treats it with medication. She said, “I have anxiety, really really bad to the point where I take medication for it. And I think it’s something everyone in some way has moments. And I think open communication and putting your feelings out on the line, that helps me a lot.”
Check out the episode below.
